I've never worked with Scott Long, but I enjoyed his headlining set earlier
this year when he came to Toledo, exchanged online pleasantries with him, and
became a fan of his "Flyover Comedy" blog. In one post, he tells it like it is
about being a road comic who's also a dad, laying out a typical day in his
insanely hectic life. After my weekend, I decided I'd rip that idea off and
throw together a little post. Saturday was a typical day for me, at least as
typical as I expect them to be in the near future. I juggled the demands of
old-guy domestic bliss with one of my first paid comedy shows, and it was a
blast, but it took a bit out of me.
For those who don't know me personally (and who the hell else reads this
shit?), I'm a 39-year-old father of two kids. My daughter is four, and has
special needs, so she's a high-maintenance handful most days. There's
medicines, bottle feedings, therapy and play time, and occasional freakouts,
meltdowns or epic throwing-up episodes. She's a lot of fun to hang out with
most of the time, but there's a lot on her to-do list. Meanwhile, my son is
ten, and is vying for a spot at a really awesome arts-based high school here in
our town. We started the day with an open house at that school -- mom took him to that, while the little one and I got through her morning routine.
All the while, I was checking on a pot of chili I had made. I was entering a
chili cookoff at my son's school, and I wanted to make sure it was just right.
I won the last two years, and this is his last year at the elementary school, so
I was really hoping for a three-peat. It's kind of embarrassing, how into this
shit you get. The first year, I was laughing it off, enjoying it ironically,
not too worried about it. By year three, I've got a game face, I'm mean-mugging the other parents, I'm hovering while people try my chili. I'm taking it WAY too seriously. I'm guessing that's either a sign of aging, or a desire for that Kroger gift card for the grand prize.
The boy and mom get home from the open house, she leaves early to go help set up the cookoff, and I wrangle lunch for the kids and hustle to get a little bit
of stuff done around the house. I had big grandiose plans for a long, hot shower, and then an hour to go over my notes for the show that night, but it was becoming obvious that none of that shit was remotely gonna happen. I packed some orders (I sell shit on Ebay for a living - more on that some other time), then loaded kids, mail, chili, and - at the last possible second - some comedy notes and a couple bottles of water for my show. I grabbed the GPS and printed out a map (us old fogies don't entirely trust the GPS, although some half-assed unverified Google Map is gospel), and I was out of the house.
I won't keep you in suspense. I won the chili cookoff, and the gift card, though by a smaller margin than in previous years. (For the record, there is no secret ingredient - the andouille sausage and chick peas are right there where you can see them, and there's a shit-ton of chili powder, cumin and red pepper).
I hung out till the last minute, then left the wife and kids at the cookoff and, unshowered, tired, with a belly full of various types of chili, hit the road for Commerce Township, Michigan. State route to expressway to typical bombed-out Michigan four-lane road, to a bowling alley called Wonderland Lanes -
packed parking lot, lots of bowlers, and an enclosed lounge area where people were paying $5 cover. Me as one of five comics, then an improv troupe, and I was getting paid? Hell yes!
Well, two of the comics didn't show. I got asked how much time I could do, and told I could do "at least" 25 minutes. The crowd was really talky, and not paying a lot of attention, despite the ambitious efforts of Hailey (the MC, improv trouper and the one who set the show up) and Eric (the guy before me). The owner even went on stage before I did my set, thanking everyone for showing up but imploring them to please be quiet because "some of these people up front want to hear the show." Not suggesting that they themselves pay any attention, just asking them to consider the weirdoes who paid $5 to see a comedy show and then, ya know, wanted to see said show.
I went up, and I tore it up. I started really strong, got 'em on my side, got a good bit of the room listening and laughing... and then I lost them. I have a bit that I loved, that just didn't work that well, and when it DID work, it was usually due to residual good will from the previous few jokes going over well. This night, it died a horrible death on the floor, and several bits after it tanked as well. It was getting really quiet, and the conversations in the back were starting up again. I thought I was probably done for.
But I kept at it, I didn't let it externally rattle me, and I tried to stay strong as I went into the last half of my set. And somehow, I won them back - it was amazing. I got some applause breaks, I had people singing along with my ridiculous closing bit, I got big applause at the end - it was incredible. I felt really good about the whole thing. I had another beer and watched Hailey and her improv troupe do their thing - they were great, Eric and I ran up on stage and participated a little bit. It was a triumphant night overall.
As I was walking out to the parking lot, feeling ten feet tall, I texted home to make sure everything was okay. "The little one just puked up her dinner all over me." Awesome. Instantly I go from rock star to deadbeat dad who's an hour away getting clapped on the back by strangers for being funny while my wife is squeegeeing toddler vomit off her clothes and trying to calm down a tired, screaming four-year-old. I rule. I text back to tell her I'm on my way home and I hit the road.
Of course, in my hurry, I don't stop to take a piss first, and I soon have to hit the facilities. Which, on this desolate stretch of post-apocalypse Michigan, seem to be few and far between. I pull off at an exit and follow a sign's instructions to turn right, only to drive for miles till I finally see a Citgo sign. I dash inside -- "restroom is broken. Sorry for incovience."
Yeah, I'm real sorry for the "incovience" too, assholes. It's only my lingering worry about getting ticketed for pissing on Michigan that keeps me from going around the back of the building. Back to the exit, over the overpass, off to the other side, to a Shell station where yes, the bathroom works, but there's not one cup of coffee to be had at all. The dregs of all their shitty picnic cooler dispenser thingies equals about a third of a cup of cold sludge. "Sit tight, I make you more," the guy tells me. "No thanks, I gotta go." I fill my tank up, press YES for a receipt, and get a ribbon of blank paper. I go back in to get a proper receipt and the guy actually looks up and says to me, "what now??"
Piece-of-shit gas stations aside, I eventually make it home, bone-tired, to find my wife and the little one passed out on the couch, each half-dressed. I got the little one to finish her meds, got her in pajamas and took her to bed. I even managed to pry my wife off the couch and get her upstairs as well. And then I laid there next to her, staring at the ceiling, amped up on Dunkin Donuts coffee and poring over my set in my head, like you do.
If comedy's gonna be what I do, there will be nights I don't get home at all, and lots more where I roll in this late or later. There'll be a lot of sleeplessness and sacrifice. Is it worth it so I can burn up a bunch of fossil fuels and squash the last bit of life out of my long-suffering Astro Van, just to tell dick jokes to rooms full of strangers? I obviously think so, and my woman has so far been nothing but supportive, more so than anyone would have a right to expect.
I'm not sure what the point of this whole war story even is, besides bragging rights for surviving a day that felt like it took a week to get through, and not screwing up any of the stuff on the to-do list. I guess if anything, just
remember that the person you see on stage for ten minutes, or thirty minutes, or an hour, didn't pop out of a coma in a padded road case ten minutes before
showtime, like a stage prop. He or she drove halfway across fuck-all, or had a weird and crazy and sometimes dreadful day, or did three people's worth of shit, and THEN got up there with sore feet and hat-head and too much coffee burbling in their gullet, and entertained the hell out of you.
For my part, I'm gonna try to remember that that works both ways, and that
maybe the obstreporous drunk who's irritating me mid-set is drunk because he can be, for the first time all week, and he's gonna enjoy it, my over-wordy premises be damned. That to two chicks yakking at the bar, my hopes and dreams for my life's calling don't mean shit, and it's up to me to make them care, or at least keep on keeping on while they yammer about whatever moves them. (Long Islands, apparently.)
Most of all, though, I'm gonna remember that unsullied good feeling I had when I walked off stage Saturday night. I took the mic and I ran that oom like a man, I did the work, and I made people I've never seen before happy, and hat felt really, really good. The older you get, the fewer moments of undiluted joy you get, and that's one I'm gonna savor for a thousand cold and indifferent
nights to come.
1/26/2012 03:32:02 pm
Keep on keepin' on - the point is that one trudges through for the genuine investment to the whole she-bang. Much like a review of a rock record, the effort put forth is always commendable (even when it's subpar). In your case, it certainly sounds as though the set is better than pleasing - a praiseworthy achievement certainly.
1/27/2012 01:02:13 am
I'm glad I was able to inspire you. Thanks for the shout-out. Good post on upside down life of trying to do comedy and having a child with special needs. It sometimes is hard to convey what it is like to have a child who is beyond a 5 minute description, but I thought you did a nice job of it. Hang in there. It doesn't get better, but I don't think it will get worse.
1/30/2012 03:57:59 am
Road doggin' it is hard enough when I have to work at 7:30 the next morning, I can't possibly imagine the added joy/pressure of being a parent on top of that. But it's awesome that you're still truckin' on it.
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